Reverse Paranoia

"I am a kind of paranoid in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy."–J.D. SalingerCanfield_5

Jack Canfield talks about how his mentor chose to believe the world was plotting to do him good. (page 46, The Success Principles) What a positive outlook on life!

In tomorrow’s Art Marketing Action newsletter, I ask artists to give of themselves to other artists. Instead of being paranoid that they’re out to steal your secrets:

  • Be happy that you have secrets to share.
  • Remember that you didn’t learn all of your secrets by yourself.
  • Believe that your generosity will be rewarded many times over.
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6 comments to Reverse Paranoia

  • Alyson, as usual you’re on my wavelength and thise is something I’ve been thinking a lot about because I truly do my best to share generously. Where I run into problems is: a.) the time I have available – join the club, right?), b.) setting generosity and cheerleading limits up front, and c.) helping someone who has crossed boundaries repeatedly understand the situation without consuming even more time during that process. I’ll bet that many of us would benefit from a conversation about limits and boundaries.

  • Alyson, I agree that we need to share instead of being paranoid. In our little town of Ulysses, KS there is a very gracious woman who shares her studio with me and about 5 other women just to do whatever we would like to work on for the day. We gather once a week and some of us paint, some draw while she runs her business of framing and giving classes, too. She joins us between times. It is a wonderful thing and we all get to bounce off problems with each other that we run across. Our friendship has grown because of the gathering. I don’t think there is an ounce of paranoia amongst us. And another thing – our production rate has improved tremendously!

  • This is the whole basis of my business. I started two years ago, building a web site with free how-to information and a weekly newsletter. When I started writing books, I continued to grow the free how-to site—it brings me new readers that eventually become paying customers. This month, I’m running an advent calendar on my web site, giving away some little printable freebie every day. My traffic has grown by leaps and bounds, and so has my subscriber list. Sure, it takes time to give things away, but what it brings back makes it well worth the investment.

  • Hmmm . . . after reading what Lisa has to say, I do admit that I sound like the grinch.

  • No you don’t, Susan! I think I’m turning the idea in a different direction—that rather than fight the whole freebie mentality, I’m putting it to work to build my own business. I think you’ve done that too—haven’t you occasionally posted free stamp sheet links to some of our art groups? Alyson emailed asking for a link to the advent calendar, and here’s my grinchly reply: I can’t share it here, because of the bandwidth concerns. I posted a link to the calendar to my subscriber list, and three online art groups. It’s December 5th, and I’ve already had to contact my web service provider to give them a heads up that I’ll be going over my limit this month, and to just bill me for the extra.

  • Generosity and Clarity Issues of the Staffing and Support System Kind

    Alyson Stanfield nudges things I’ve got on my mind at as I’ve been forced to reevaluate the way I structure my support system. And Dave Grey at Communication Nation is talking about the painful parts of changing staff. This hits close to home this week.