To identify those who might be dragging you down (anchors), let’s look at six types of toxic relationships, courtesy of Cheryl Richardson in her book Take Time for Your Life:
THE BLAMER. A person who consistently blames you and everyone else for his problems. Instead of taking responsibility for his life, he blames others.
THE COMPLAINER. (I call them whiners and put up a “no whining” sign in my art marketing action workshops.) The person for whom nothing is going right. Instead of doing something about it, she just complains a lot.
THE DRAINER. The world revolves around him. He’s always needing your help to feel better.
THE SHAMER. Cuts you off, puts you down, reprimands you, or makes fun of you and your ideas in front of others.
THE DISCOUNTER. Challenges everything you say. She has a strong need to be right and finds fault in almost any position.
THE GOSSIP. Self-explanatory. If he gossips about someone else, you know he’s probably gossiping about you.
Do you know any of these people? Start making a list and figure out how to set your boundaries with them.
I highly recommend Cheryl Richardson’s book or audio as a way to begin.